i’m still going strong, despite what feels like uneaten now and laters in my lower intestine. i figured i scared y’all off with football, so i’m going to keep at it! are you ready for some free advice? ellie, tell me how it is!
DEAR [KENDRA]: In April, my boyfriend of two years and I planned to take a vacation the first week of July. Since he’s South American and a big soccer fan, I knew that the first week of July was also the World Cup finals.
I don’t have as much flexibility getting time off in the summer as he has. When I mentioned World Cup, he said it would be “no problem.” Last night he said he was ecstatic that I thought of scheduling our vacation that week. He envisions sitting in front of the TV, drinking beer and catching all the games.
I’m destroyed, hurt that he could be so insensitive. True, we didn’t discuss the details before booking, but we’ve been on vacations together before and I didn’t see anything different. I like soccer, but not a week’s worth!
How can I get him to compromise? I know he loves me, but could he love soccer more?
WORLD CUP WIDOW
dear widow,
get over yourself. the world cup is once every four years, your boyfriend has to put up with you every day. give him a break. i also don’t understand your moaning. you’re going for the first week of july? check the calendar. at most there are four games he’d need to watch. the group stage is over- no more 6 hour marathons of watching everything you can. i’m sure you can spare eight hours of your precious vacation to let your boyfriend watch a few games, that is if you love him. if you want him to just indulge you, wait till after 9 july, when life returns to normal.
you can actually play this to make you out to be a saint. let him know you’re letting him watch the games because you love him that much. i’m sure he’ll make up in kind. if you can’t even do that, you suck. the world cup is awesome.
come on england!
i hope this helps.
DEAR [KENDRA]: My girlfriend’s roommate set her up with a man old enough to be her dad, and she did the wild thing with him. Now my girlfriend of five years is going out with this guy, who’s a druggie, a dealer and a thief.
I love her. She’s 26, but sometimes acts like a little girl.
WANT HER BACK
dear back,
why would your girlfriend’s roommate set her up with a scumbag if she knew the two of you were dating. either she didn’t know, and your girldfriend sucks for not being committed, or she did know, and both of them suck for not being faithfull and intentionally hurting you.
your girlfriend has a daddy complex and wants to date a creep. get over it and move on. you’ll be better for it in the long run.
i hope this helps.
DEAR [KENDRA]: I’ve been dating this guy for 18 months, but the future worries me. I’m moving away to college in the fall and we’ve spoken about a long-distance relationship. We both agreed to try and make the relationship work.
But I am moving on from high school, while he’s older but has made no decision for his future. He currently works part time, but that job is not taking him anywhere. He has thought about military school or trade school but has made no efforts to pursue either. I’m afraid our difference in decisions will affect our relationship.
Should I worry about this or is it just a phase?
MOVING AHEAD
dear ahead,
you seem to be way ahead of your boyfriend. that just had to be said.
this is a phase- a very important phase. i wouldn’t say you should “phase” your boyfriend out, but you shouldn’t let him hinder you. people who maintain long distance relationships out of habit are sad. you’re about to go through major life lessons, and you don’t need deadweight. i’d just say wait and see. let the relationship fizzle or be put on the bakc burner. if you pick it up later, that’s gravy, but i wouldn’t force it right now.
nothing’s sadder than seeing a college freshman stuck with some loser from home that inhibits all of their fun. don’t be that person!
i hope this helps.
