
see that? dr j bought another copy of the intolerable bastard, child genius 7″ off of ebay for me. i told him to bid $20, but it sold for $1. oh well! point is, i have it and it will live comfortably with the others.
intolerable bastard, child genius
free advice no. 56
holy cow! remember our old friend free advice? (for those of you who are new to this, and it has been a while, i basically am a crass dear abby.) well… i think it’s time to make a comeback. for the past few months i kept thinking, “i need to write some more free advice…” but i didn’t do it. now i am. it’s amazing. so let’s get going abby…
DEAR [KENDRA]: My husband and I recently watched a comedy that featured men cross-dressing. Ever since, I have had a burning desire to have my husband wear sexy lingerie and makeup.
There is nothing effeminate about him, but I can’t get this out of my head. I bought him a lacy bra and panty set, garter belt and stockings, but I haven’t had the nerve to ask him to wear them. Am I crazy? Should I try to forget this? — BURNING DESIRE IN NAHANT, MASS.
dear burning desire,
you are not crazy. you should delicately broach the subject with your husband. i wouldn’t suggest immediately whipping out the lacy bra and panties for him, but you should let him know you’ve been thinking about it. hopefully he will respect you enough not to freak out and actually discuss it. who knows, maybe he’s been having similar urges? (what if he already has his own set?) point is, relationships call for this sort of honesty and intimacy. you need to talk about it. good luck.
i hope this helps.
DEAR [KENDRA]: I have been in a relationship with “John” for the past seven years. I live down south, while John lives up north. John is 76 and does not plan to retire, even though he doesn’t have to work. I am 65 and need to work.
Is it possible for this long-distance relationship to survive? Part of me wishes we would end it so we could start over with someone who lives in the same city. I’m tired of living this way, but cannot seem to make the break. What should I do? — SOUTHERN BELLE
dear southern belle,
dude. seriously… put your foot down or just deal with it. seven years is a long time. longer than lots of marriages. relationships are about compromise, and it sounds like you and john either need to do it or split. harsh? nah. reality sucks like that. would it be possible for you to get another job or transfer to his city? if not, is it possible for him to move to yours? does he even know you’re frustrated about this? talk to him, see what he says. if he’s not willing to relocate, i think it’s time to find a new fellow closer to home. (insert cliché about southern gentlemen here.)
i hope this helps.
DEAR [KENDRA]: Our family, consisting of our three children, their spouses, our grandchildren and great-grandchildren, have occasional gatherings to celebrate special events. My husband’s 90th birthday is this summer, and the immediate family will come here, some from faraway locations.
My daughter-in-law, “Janie,” who lives 2,000 miles away, has felt for years that her children from previous marriages (who do not know any of us) should be included at these events. They live within 100 miles of our home and could attend if invited. Our relationship with Janie has been generally cordial and affectionate. She will be visiting her children at their homes the week of the birthday. If we exclude her kids from our celebration, she will feel insulted and resentful.
How obligated should we feel to bow to Janie’s demands and include four additional adults and a young child to our party? My husband becomes upset and confused by large groups and noisy children. — CORNERED ON THE EASTERN SHORE
dear cornered,
is janie really demanding anything or are you being overly sensitive and trying to play the victim card? sorry, but your whole tone seems really uptight. if you don’t want janie’s children there, then just fess up and tell her that. don’t use your husband as an excuse, just be honest.
if the party roster is really just family, close family, then janie might resent it but you will be in the right. explain it to her and if she gets upset, then maybe drop the “grandpa gets confused” excuse. but if you plan on a big group and this is just something against janie, then you’re just being unfair. (or am i being unfair to you? probably both.) janie probably wants to see her kids, and assumes that family is family. you guys just have different definitions of family.
i hope this helps.
p & a love to munch
they’re cute, right? right?!?! i think so.
african violets
remember that african violet i bragged about blooming ages ago? well it’s totally blowing up now. i don’t know what’s making it grow like this, but it has over 10 flowers at the moment. i nearly killed this thing 4 years ago, and now it’s thriving.
i have been to mecca, or something like that
last week i went to washington d.c. for SLA 2009. it was a very long week. long and tiring, basically, i had major stuff to do every single day. my one day off, which was supposed to be for a museum, was co-opted by a last minute invitation to speak to some transportation mucky-mucks. i’ll talk about it on my library blog. anyhow, this is a picture of me in the stacks of the library of congress. it was amazing. i just kept saying, “oh man! wow. this is amazing.” really, the whole place is stunning.
i’m happy to be home though. i wish i had more sleep though, because i was absolute rubbish on the pitch yesterday. sorry spectacular orange for letting you all down. i promise i will play better next week!
we took the guinea pigs for a walk
and all i got was a bunch of fur on me. they didn’t seem too thrilled.
older
this picture was taken about 26 years ago, give or take a few days.
i’m the little kid sitting in my aunt marsue’s lap at zelda’s pizzas in sacramento, we were celebrating our combined birthday today is marsue’s birthday. happy birthday, auntie social!
pucker up
right now i’m eating some sour patch kids, so here’s a picture of some. these aren’t the ones i’m eating though.
i changed the theme of this blog again. why? too many people complained that they couldn’t comment. i didn’t realize the interface wasn’t very user friendly, so i went to something a little better. i think it’s dull, but at least it works.
ouch. i just got the sour dust in my eye. it burns!!!
capy birthday erika

i vaguely remembered making this two years ago.
erika really liked capybaras.
wigan… part of what?
i was looking at world soccer shop for white football shirts to wear for my league games. i was thinking an everton away kit, but probably will continue to wear my old janky punk rock shirts. anyhow, i saw this wigan t-shirt which made me laugh. “wigan: greater manchester.” now wigan is part of the borough of greater manchester, but that implies it’s mancunian like bolton. after reading stuart maconie’s pies and prejudice, i really wouldn’t consider wigan to be greater manchester. western lancashier.
this of course begs the question, why do i have such a strange fondness for lancashire. i’m still trying to figure that one out.
BANANAGRAMS!
dr j love bananas. you might say he goes bananas for them. i think banana: the fate of the fruit that changed the world was one of his favourite books of the past year. this picture was taken at a grocery store in delft. he was excited to see “cavendish” (the variety of banana found in grocery store (RIP big mike)) on the boxes. dr j also loves dan koeppel’s banana book blog.
that’s why i bought him the game bananagrams. it’s like scrabble, only with the tiles in banana and no board. we just played a game and it was fun.
bloggy business
ok, so i finally changed some stuff about this blog, like the appearance. it’s amazing, innit?
the other thing is that i started a new blog. cavyparty.com, which is just guinea pigs. check it out.
In search of Lickitung.

Back in 2000, there was the Lookout Freakout Tour, which was sort of the 2nd annual Lookout Freakout (the first being Labor Day 1999… it was amazing). In conjunction with the tour was an E-Music exlcusive download for “Lickitung” by Punkémon. There was also a design your own punkémon contest. I don’t think I entered, but I did download the mp3. I had to.
Sometime this week the song got stuck in my head. “Lickitung… licky Lickitung… Lickitung! Feeling allright.” You know, a half formed memory of a part of a silly song that just wouldn’t quit. I was actually caught singing it at work.
“What are you singing?”
“Uh… some weird song from 2000.”
Anyhow, I wanted to hear it again but it was sort of hard to find. E-Music didn’t have it anymore and I wasn’t really surprised. The more I looked for it, the more I wanted to hear it. Call it nostalgia or a 1/3 life crisis, I just had to go back to the halcyon days before I moved away to college.
I found the mp3 here, but then I also found it on some weird old hard drive. Yeah! Dr J is pretty sick of it by now, but I’m just happy this gem isn’t lost to the ages.








